Comparison is the end of everything!
I often post motivational quotes on my Instagram stories. They usually apply directly to what I’m going through at that moment. I pride myself on keeping things real with my followers, so let’s be real sometimes life kicks our ass! In this crazy social media world that we now live in, we (myself included) can feel like we aren’t doing enough, cool enough, aren’t traveling enough, don’t have enough pretty pictures. I can go on and on. But the truth is it’s a glimpse into one second of someone’s life. Two seconds after that pic was taken they stop sucking in their tummies and stopped posing. Notice my key word there, posing, we pose for a picture of how we want our life to be portrayed for that very second. But then an awful thing comes and we start comparing ourselves to others. We compare our lives to that one split second of another person’s life.
I received an Instagram message that really made me think. This beautiful girl messaged me saying how jealous she was of all the things I get to do and how she strives to be like me. My response to her was first off, thank you, what a kind complement. But then I told her I wanted her to strive to be like herself, and to take what I do to inspire her to be the best she can be. I went on to tell her how I wanted her to take what she likes about me and use that to aspire to be even better than me. Don’t compare yourself to me or anyone on social media for that matter. Please know that you are actually way cooler than your feed will ever be!
Because the truth is, I’m clumsy, forgetful and doubt myself constantly. While I feel completely blessed in my life… my life has also thrown me curve balls and I struggle with things as well. I struggle to be a better mom, wife, blogger, chef, dog mom, friend, teacher the list can go on and on. What you don’t see is the struggles it took to get where I am but the thing is the struggle never ends. I’m super hard on myself and have fallen into the trap of comparing myself to others as well. I don’t have as many followers as others do, I don’t post as much as others do, my makeup is hardly ever on and my life seems so boring compared to others.
People the struggle is real!
Until I realized that comparison is the end of everything! We need to take the things we like about social media influencers and use that to “influence” our life not to compare our lives. Let others influence us to do better in our own lives instead of comparing ourselves.
Another thing I have noticed about social media is that it can be the most caddy thing there is. Everyone is a bad ass behind a computer or iPhone! Everyone has to tell you their opinion and what they think you are doing wrong, accuse you of things they know nothing about and make up lies from a picture they saw on your social media. There are even girl groups out there that say they “strive to inspire women” yet will bash you behind your back.
“If you have to hurt other people in order to feel powerful, you are an extremely weak individual.” – Bobby Mattingly
Ladies we need to stop this! We will never inspire others by putting them down. We raise up by bringing people up, by bringing out the best in them and pushing them to achieve, not by criticizing what they have achieved. What might be a small accomplishment to one person is a huge accomplishment to another, you never know the struggles of another person. Especially just by viewing their social media!
So, in a world where everyone is trying to outdo each other or be like everyone else, I say be weird! Be You! Be different! Aspire to be the best YOU possible not what you think people want you to be! Normal is boring… be daring, be creative, just be you!
Here are a few ways I try to keep my sanity:
· Disconnect! Go outside and live life instead of looking at a screen!
· Set Goals for YOURSELF and no one else!
· Stay Positive and aspire to inspire!
“Be like Michael Phelps. Stay in your own lane. Keep swimming forward & don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. Don’t look at other lanes. Just keep swimming.”
– Bethenny Frankel